Requests for Dates

When you’re working in an environment with several other people, you want that environment to be pleasant and filled with respect as it can make your job much easier to accomplish during the day. There are times when working long hours during the day and being in close proximity with other people leads to derogatory remarks that are made or even harassment that is sexual in nature. A scenario that is quite common in many workplaces is when an employer or a co-worker asks another worker to go out on a day after work. This can be a question that is posed to an applicant as well. While most of the time being asked out for a date can be flattering, this can be seen as harassment if it happens in the harassment. If this happens, it can pose an issue with completing work during the day and can sometimes prevent an applicant from getting a job if the person refuses the date. There are laws in place that offer protection against requests for dates while in the workplace or when you’re applying for a position. If you’ve experienced this situation, consider contacting an attorney who can help you file a claim or determine if there are other options that you have available.

When you’re in a position of inferiority with an employer or a potential employer, you might think that you need to accept any requests for dates that are made in order to keep your job or secure a job after applying. You do not have to accept any requests for dates and are protected against any such requests that are made if you refuse them. Attorneys often turn to the Civil Rights Act of 1964 when offering information about requests for dates in the workplace and the protections that employees and applicants have as the act makes discrimination illegal regarding someone’s gender or sex. Since discrimination often surrounds someone’s sex or gender, it’s often considered a type of sexual harassment. If your employer is discriminating against you because you refuse to go on a date after a request is made, then you could claim sexual harassment. Most of the time, a request for a date is often considered sexual harassment because of the potential for some type of romantic gesture that could occur or sexual statements and gestures that could be made.

The Human Rights Law offers other types of protection if you’re an employee or seeking employment at the workplace and encounter any kind of sexual harassment situation. If there is a quid pro quo situation where the employer asks for a date in exchange for a job or an advancement, then this would be prohibited and often considered sexual harassment. Creating a hostile work environment by asking for a date and you refusing the date is also considered sexual harassment in most situations. If the incident happens more than one time, you need to record the details and the dates either on paper or on an electronic device so that you can give the information to an attorney. Once the attorney has these details in hand, then it can be easier to file a complaint or a claim against the employer.

Sometimes, it can be difficult to refuse the offer of a date, especially if you are in a situation where you need the job and feel that the request needs to be granted in order to maintain the position that you have or that you want to get. However, you also need to know that it’s an act that’s prohibited in the workplace and that can be grounds for criminal charges if it leads to other sexual harassment actions.

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